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  • Writer's pictureMatthew Connelly

Finding the Perfect First Dance Song

Choosing the perfect first dance song for your wedding can be daunting. It’s your first dance as a married couple—kind of a big deal. While there are countless classic love songs, you may be looking for something a little more unique and personalized. In this blog post, we’ll explore some tips and ideas for selecting a wedding first dance song that isn’t from the traditional first dance song lists.

first dance as a married couple at Grass Valley, Ca.
Finding the Perfect First Dance Song

Find the Perfect First Dance Song You Love, Both Lyrically and Emotionally.

Your first dance. Something you'll only experience once with your partner. It's incredible to think about. You both said I do, kissed to make it official, and began the celebration. Now it's time to dance your first dance as a married couple. The memory and the photo are something that will last forever.

1. Think outside the box.

When selecting a wedding first dance song, it’s easy to get stuck in the traditional mold of slow, romantic ballads, especially if there is some influence from more traditional friends and family. Hundreds of Spotify lists are the same songs, just in a different order. However, plenty of other music genres and styles can make for a memorable first dance that you might love to use. Consider spending a few evenings listening to music and making a list of songs that might be "the one." You can begin your search by checking out my list of non-traditional first dance songs HERE.

2. Consider the lyrics.

While the “feel" of a song is important, I think the lyrics are what make a song meaningful. Look for a song with lyrics that resonate with you and your partner, whether that be a song that tells your love story or a song that captures the emotion of the moment. It doesn't have to be the complete song; maybe it's a verse or one line that means everything to you. Go for it.

3. Look for songs with a special connection.

If a particular song has a special meaning or memory for you and your partner, put it on the list. Whether it’s a song from your first date or a song that reminds you of a special moment in your relationship, using a song with a personal connection can make your first dance even more meaningful. Spend a Sunday morning listening to some new music. Maybe one will create a new connection.

4. Consider the tempo.

While a slow, romantic ballad is a classic choice for a first dance, don’t be afraid to switch things up with a faster tempo. Consider a song with a fun, upbeat rhythm you and your partner can dance to and enjoy. Your guests will love it; it’ll help set the vibe for a serious dance party. Maybe ask the DJ to invite your guests to join the two of you at the 2:00 minute mark. It's a great way to kick off the group dancing!

5. Get creative with the dance. (It doesn't have to be the "arms on shoulders" type of dance)

Your first dance doesn’t have to be a traditional slow dance. Consider getting creative, whether a choreographed routine or a more informal, freeform dance. Choosing a song with a unique beat or rhythm can inspire you to create a dance that’s uniquely your own.

I’m a fan of a rehearsed first dance. After you find the perfect song, dance to it in the kitchen. Figure out if it feels right. Maybe it doesn't feel right. Go back to your list and find one that does.

6. Stuck and don’t know what to do? Work with your DJ.

If you’re struggling to find the perfect first dance song, ask your DJ. I get asked this a few times a year. It's usually something like, "we can't find the perfect first dance song. Help!" I totally get it. We either get on the phone, or they send me their Spotify list of almost-perfect songs. Then I can find out what their favorites are and why none are the perfect ones. Sometimes it's a lyric, so I can create a custom edit to remove a verse or start the song at the second chorus. Overall, your DJ is your musical guide. We can help you find the perfect song.

In conclusion, choosing a first dance song that isn’t from the traditional first dance song lists can be a bonding experience for your partner and you. Considering the song's lyrics and tempo and exploring various genres and styles, you can find a song that truly speaks to you. Remember, your first dance is between your partner and you. Don’t let anyone steer you away from the music you love.


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